I will use the word Therapy and Counselling interchangeably, to me they refer to the same thing; a relationship between a professional qualified person and a client, brought together to create a supportive, safe and confidential relationship, in which talk therapy can take place.
At different points in our life we can feel as if we are stuck. This may coincide with a major life event such as a bereavement, the breakdown of a relationship, divorce, redundancy, or a diagnosis of a life long, or terminal illness. It may also occur at any point without a life event and sometimes this can cause feelings of confusion and anxiety, as we are unable to explain to ourselves exactly what the problem is.
Counselling can be useful in both cases, whether we know the cause or not. Counselling offers the opportunity to explore difficult feelings and thoughts, and help regain some sense of self at a point where we feel stuck, or as if we are in a fog.
Therapy offers an opportunity to experience a safe and confidential space in which to talk through our problems, concerns and issues. Talk therapy as it is also known, provides a release of what is being held inside. Especially if we feel unable to share these feelings with our closest friends and family, for fear of judgement or not being listened to. Primarily my position in the therapeutic relationship is to not only provide a safe, confidential, non-judgemental space, and to listen to my clients, but to endeavour to truly hear my client and understand them. The ultimate aim is to enable a better understanding of ourselves, and with a clearer understanding of who we are, we are then in a position in which to make clearer decisions about how we want to live.
Therapy and change takes time, and during the time I spend with my clients I regularly review how we are doing. Is the client benefiting from our sessions together, is there anything unsaid that we need to say to each other? I always respect the clients right to be able to make the right decision for themselves, and I believe that clear communication in a safe environment demonstrates my belief that the client knows best.